Lastly and I know this is long. Do peopel with bpd (and I know al lare different) say things wether nice or mean where you can hear t the comments or see them posted? Do they post thi ngs to rile you up or make you feel al warm and fuzzy in hopes that you will initiate contact? Mine is being a jerk and saying things he knows will hurt me..because he ca?? Normally I would have repsonded by now, but no, I won't. He has also posted some sex sexual kind of crap to which I haven't contacted him about. Is this in chance a way to get the other person upst enough to CONTACT them?