(((((smacky))))),

Sometimes we pick the wrong person to be in a relationship with.....there is nothing wrong in realizing that the relationship wasn't what we had hoped it would be when we first started out. Many times people who abuse lure us into the relationship in the first place & then wham.

It's important to know that the relationship isn't good & that it needs to end & that it isn't good & best to let go. We can care about the person, but knowing that we have to care about ourselves MORE is what is important. Love is a 2 way street & when someone abuses, they DON'T LOVE you. No reason to stay in a relationship that doesn't have 2 way love because one would be loosing the opportunity to find that relationship that does when stuck in a bad relationship.

One has to hold onto reality....what the relationship really is rather than what we hoped & keep hoping it could be.

It's not your fault the relationship ended up being bad when there is abuse in it....it's their abuse & inability to exist in a healthy relationship.....no reason to hurt yourself because you are not willing to stay in an abusive relationship that wasn't your fault for it failing in the first place.

Sometimes if we really look at the situation we are in realistically, it helps us NOT hurt so bad & then lessens the feelings that cause us to hurt ourselves because of it.