Endings are hard. I am so glad (OK and jealous) that you have the blanket from T. Gotta ask... Does it smell like T??? Anyway, I am sure it will bring great comfort during this difficult time.
I am glad you had a chance to re-do the birthday. My 30th was one of the worst days of my life (due to a break up of sorts). I am glad you are treasuring the new memory as you let the old one go.
There is a book called transitions (http://www.amazon.com/Transitions-Ma...0653328&sr=8-1) that is really good if you are a reader.