She's the one with an issue salukigirl.If she was as secure as she pretends to be, she'd allow room for you to be you and her to be her.She has low self-esteem.Just know that you are perfectly YOU and don't need to please her.I'd take her power away and start saying ...."Thank you for your opinion." and move on to something else.Although I have to wonder how good my opinion was here...because I'd be just as irritated as you are.