I wasn't sure if this should go in relationships or what so feel free to move.

My mom, who I love very much and for the most part has been an awesome mother, has what I like to call a "selective" memory.

She does not remember pretty much anything bad that has ever happened to me in my entire life (I'm 41).

This drives me absolutely nuts, because it makes me feel like some pretty traumatic experiences don't exist in her mind.

A quick example - today we were talking about college, and I had some horrible roommates that were very cruel to me, to the point that I'd called my parents in hysterics to come get me, as well as my best friend - they all came, my parents took us out to dinner, I stayed with a faculty member for a night, and ended up moving home for the semester and commuting an hour and a half each way to do my student teaching for 2 months, plus a regular college class...I am not a teacher now due to that horrible experience and all my mom remembers is coming up and taking my friend and I out to dinner.

She's always been one to act like things aren't there and just say " I don't remember" as if this will just negate the fact that they happened....it's hard when I am extremely sensitive and remember every detail of certain situations like this one and others that obviously meant a lot to me.

On the other end of the spectrum, after I've been hospitalized I'm usually pretty foggy, especially after the last time when I had ECT and I don't remember a lot of the day to day things that happened. These little things are the ones she remembers....that I didn't call her when I said I would...things that seem almost petty in comparison.

I've done a LOT of work in therapy on dealing with my mom ....I just got so frustrated talking to her today...I can't believe she wouldn't remember something like that - maybe I'm selfish for thinking her entire life revolved around me, but it's only myself and my sister.

I really just needed to get this out. Thank you all.