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Originally Posted by lastyearisblank
Does your therapist ever say "you seem fine?" when you're ready to sell all your possessions and jump off a dam or something? I feel like it's hard to keep up a front and then let it down all of a sudden but if anyone has tips, I'd love to hear what you do!
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My therapist has definitely never questioned how I am feeling when I have been up front and told him ("I know I look okay, but I'm seriously ready to jump off a cliff"). He knows that my survival as a child depending on "looking okay" and that it's my default.
Sometimes, though, if I can't access the words to say how I'm feeling, so I can't tell him, he assumes things are fine because I LOOK fine.. THAT is really hard for me. To be so misattuned and misunderstood. It's not T's fault at all, but it usually feels awful enough that after some struggle (and often, rupture!), I am able to get T to understand how I'm feeling, and just having someone understand provides a little bit of relief.
I'm sorry you're feeling so bad, (((((lastyearisblank)))))
