Completely know what you mean about the whole normal thing. It's a MYTH!

Pretty much the only point I can think of for a *very* delayed diagnosis of any kind is to help you in the present. Although we can't change our pasts, we are constantly defined by our pasts in many ways. My therapist works through a lot of things by going back, going back and gets to current events that way. It's kind of strange but it seems to be working (for me at least). In other words putting a label to what happened or what was going on may not be helpful to your parents but it *might* (or might not) be helpful to you.

I really think it's up to you how you take it. personally I like your approach and how you see so many of the questions this issue raises - I'm now officially enjoying this thread and glad to meet you xD