I'm in the same situation. The monitoring becomes addictive in itself. I have caught him several times over the past 4 years. Each time he swears he won't do it again, and he is remorseful and even ashamed. It hurts but one day, you may find something that you can't live with. The porn addiction seems to become more bizarre over time and sometimes I guess it eventually leads to child porn. I am here because I don't know if I can live with the fact that my husband went that far. I just found the images on his computer last week. It is a line I never thought he would cross. I made him move to the other bedroom. I haven't decided what I am going to do, but he will go to therapy if I have to drag him there. I'm ashamed and embarrassed to talk to anyone. I don't even want to tell my therapist, but I feel I must.