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Originally Posted by Symbiosis
You want to know she gives a flip and if she did, she would try to be more comforting because she realizes your issues and sensitivity to the disruption of the schedule---is that somewhat true?
I'm at the same place right now. My T has been away for 3 weeks and I wasn't prepared for any of his absences. Now I keep wanting him to check in and of course, he won't. That would show too much caring and concern and why on earth should we expect support for our therapists?! Errr.
When do you see her next?
Maybe we can stew together?  I'm climbing the walls! |
Symbiosis,
You want to know she gives a flip and if she did, she would try to be more comforting because she realizes your issues and sensitivity to the disruption of the schedule, is that somewhat true?
EXACTLY!!! I wish i would have had your words when I've tried to explain it to my t. When i try to tell her how i feel, i'm too verbose, can't make it concise enough, and ramble. I'm pretty sure she's sick of reading my emails and when she gets one thinks, "Oh no! Not another message from T! She just says the same thing over and over."
Yes. . .i want her to recognize this is a hurdle for me and. . .seeing as i've been so practically phobic about attaching with her. . .couldn't she please deal a bit more compassionately when she starts to pull away from me? I mean, yes, obviously the point of therapy is to grow and to do more for yourself and not need t as much. But when your issue is not having the connection or support you had in childhood, and now your t is withdrawing some support and wanting you to stand on your own more. . .a compassionate t is going to realize that it's going to trigger old issues and potentially feel like an abandonment. They should let you know that growing and changing doesn't mean they are going to lose your caring or support. Shouldn't they?