Kitten : Bullseye! I've been hanging around the "Romantic Feelings for Your Therapist" section for a little while now & have been part of that discussion. (Hi Masimo!) I've never read a better description of what's been going on with me. What therapy has triggered in me. And what needs to be done to hopefully reach some sort of resolution! I see my T tomorrow morning & I KNOW what I need to tell her : "I want to be with you - it breaks my heart to think of you with other men - and I feel like such a lousy husband to have such thoughts about another woman." Short & sweet - TOTALLY TRUE. Now, I'm not saying I will - I said I know I NEED to. Truth is, I'm afraid that if I do, she'll withhold her affection for me (we hug at the end of every session - wonderful!!) & she will re-establish her "professional boundaries" - or worse yet send me away / refer me to another T. That would feel like the ULTIMATE rejection!! We have sort of "skirted" the issue. Some time ago (maybe a year or so) I said to her "I wish we had met at a different time & place." Then 3 weeks ago I admitted to her that I was "in love" with her. And apologized for not being able to "make these feelings go away." She was actually quite wonderful about it all. But even then I knew I wasn't being totally honest with her. That would be the above statement - what I wish I could say to her.

Kitten, you did a GREAT job in laying out the "problem" - at least for me anyway. Now, about that solution...

Thoughts anyone???

Good luck tomorrow, Masimo!! I hear ya. The thought of doing that with my T terrifies me too!!!

Lavalamp