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Originally Posted by peaches100
Maggyjo,
She hasn't once acknowledged that the disruption in the schedule must be hard for me, and asked how she could help. She does say, "I'm sorry it's hard for you" or "I'm sorry you feel so bad." But no admitting that she has anything to do with my feelings of loss. It's always about the past, my relationship with my mom, etc. etc. It's like she thinks every thought and emotion and reaction i have are in response to the past and relate to my mom, and i am just mis-assigning it to her.
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That's very frustrating! I'm going through something so similar.
I want the issue to separate into two:
1) What T has done or is not doing that is exacerbating the situation
2) How my reaction amplifies #1; my part in the whole thing
But I want #1 addressed first! Like take some responsibility because I'm not the one that has disrupted our schedule and ANYONE would likely be upset to some degree. Isn't always about my issues.
You said she is good with validating your feelings---that will help, right? I'm afraid the more I admit my honest feelings, the more clinical/distant my T will become.
So will you be in contact with her between now and then? Or will you just wait until next session to cover it?