Today is a lot of things right...Mark and I went to couples counseling, where I confronted him for his verbal abuse and mean attitude...but applauded how gentle and warm and loving his relationship is with me the rest of the time...my therapist saw through all his excuses and statements that made no sense, and established better communication between us, kept saying whatever my past was as far as this being my first relationship, does not mean I get treated bad because he has had relationships before, like his ex-wife treated him because she had had a marriage before him. We worked on the things he's dealing with his legal problems, the way that makes him feel, how hurt I am from his abuse, how he yelled as a way of getting respect, how he has heard me yell at my mother before in defense to her yelling, we worked on not getting financial contributions from him, his blaming other people for his behavior, we hugged at the end, I feel more understood by him.