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Originally Posted by amandalouise
yes it is possible to heal. its all in the mind set of what each person considers healed.
here healed does not have to mean integration. it doesnt have to mean co conscious and it doesnt have to mean communicating with the alters. it doesnt have to mean no more mental disorder regardless of the disorder.
here healed means the client is able to have a normal present life without their past causing them problems. they are able to function and their mental disorders are stable not causing them distress in their daily life.
with DID some do choose or it automatically happens with co consciousness and integration for others they are able to learn other ways such as monitoring their triggers, then taking time to ground and calm their self so that they can continue on with their life without dissociating into alters.
if trying to develop communication isnt working for you then don't worry about it. approach it from the other side.. monitor your triggers and learn ways to over come those triggers or find some way that will enable you to remain grounded and continue on with your life.
The word healed is one of those words that are self defining. if you think you are ok without delving into the past and what the alters know then thats ok.
talk with your treatment provider. they will help you to have a happy, unaffected by DID life without having to delveinto the past by monitoring and taking care of the triggers.
We have many clients here at the crisis center and hospital for which there is no way to develop communication so we work on their triggers with them and they go on to have happy productive lives where their DID does not adversely affect their life.
yes healing is possible.
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Amandalouise,
Thank you for such a well thought-out answer. I believe part of my problem is that I'm wanting "total" healing. I don't want to have these needy or scared feelings anymore! i don't want to want to have attachment problems! i don't want to have to keep feeling and facing emotional pain every day! I just want to go back to the way i was before i had my breakdown years ago. Happy all the time, and not triggered or afraid or needy. or needing a mother figure.
i functioned better when i was in denial. i functioned better when i didn't know i had child parts of myself that were unhealed, and when i didn't know i dissociated. I didn't used to need anybody's help. But my breakdown suddenly introduced all of my hurting, traumatized child parts into my life, and i can't deal with them. i've tried and it's too hard. they need too much, and i can't give it to them. my t can't give them enough either. it's too hard. i don't want to try anymore.