My mom wants to bring her boyfriend to my birthday dinner in three weeks and I dislike him greatly. He has been extremely pushy about my relationship with my mom, treats me like I'm an idiot, and for many other reasons I just don't like him. My father doesn't like him either and I simply do not wish to spend an evening with him.

I told my mother I don't want him to be there, but she told me not to be "like that" and said she needed him to pay for her. I don't know how to explain to her how much I don't want this.. When she said he was going I felt like someone had started choking me and I wanted to cry.

I know it doesn't seem like such a big deal, but this dinner is for both my father and I (our birthdays are next to each other) and I cannot imagine how horrible and awkward it would be if we had this unwanted guest sitting at our table. I don't want him to be there at all, but how my mother acted it was if he was going to whether I wanted it or not. I thought about cancelling it all together, I thought about telling her not to come.. A birthday is supposed to be special, supposed to be enjoyed.. But it seems as though I have no choice.. and this year once again, I'll be spending it miserable.