I've seen a lot of posts lately where those in and around my age worry or have negative feelings about not having a partner. Just my $.02 but something to ponder....

We are still working, healing, growing, changing. Often I find that people who are attracted to me are either attracted to my woundedness or wounded themselves (not that that is a bad thing, just hard on a relationship). First, I think we need and deserve that "me" time we never got and get to know our new and healthy self. Second, if we start a relationship now, in the midst of our healing and growing is it going to be what we and our partners need and want in a relationship when we heal?

I know for me the kind of person I want to be in relationship with, the caliber of person I deserve is not attracted to me in that way YET. Don't get me wrong, they are loving compassionate people but they are healthy, stable people who want to be partnered with someone equally as healthy and strong. That isn't me... YET.

Dunno... for those of us on long, difficult, life changing journeys of healing wouldn't getting a partner now be kinda like getting married t 12? We don't know what beautiful being we WILL become yet.