Peaches, I really like how you are thinking about all of this. You are verbalizing it really well and understand what is going on with you.

I think that it is best to jump in with a person about any issue. Avoiding the issue because you want someone to progress past it doesn't work. You have to jump into with them so that it can be explored. Exploring it is the only way to move past it.

Do you think that you need to ask her if she is uncomfortable with the topic and if she is avoiding it?