(((Peaches))) It does sound like you and your T are misattuned on this topic. Advice on coping is not what you are looking for when you email T. But yet she gives it. I think it is probably deliberate on her part. I think she knows that is not the response you hope for. Her words are distancing. Maybe she thinks adding to the distance with words like these will help you cope in her absence? Maybe she is trying to prepare you for yet more schedule disruptions, absences, and the future when she is retired? I think it is worth talking to her about and just asking, "why do you respond that way?" It might be helpful to know what her intent is.
Peaches, has your T always responded in this way to your emails? I don't remember your writing about this before. I think I remember there have been times when you wrote her and she didn't respond at all (or took a long time), and you became upset. I wonder if this is her new MI--she does respond but doesn't make it comforting or satisfying. Like she doesn't want to give you "too much"?
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Originally Posted by peaches100
"Put the child parts into a safe place and let them know we will get to their concerns later,"
"Be mindful and use your coping skills."
"I hope you will use your mindfulness of present moment and you notice yourself worrying about the future."
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These sound like very "canned" responses. There is little of herself in these sentences. I wonder if they are stock phrases she has stored on her computer for easy cut and paste to client emails? Maybe she thinks you would rather receive these than nothing? She is trying to meet your needs to receive emails from her within the confines of what she has time, energy, and desire to provide outside of session?
It sounds like a difficult situation, peaches. I would not like getting emails like that from my T. I would rather receive no emails than get misattuned ones. (Maybe she is nudging you toward that resolution?)