well i would talk to her about just that: her language.
Tell her the words she is using make u feel worse.
Shes using negative terms
She should see where u are coming from, its perfectly
Reasonable.
Maybe u could address it all by saying to her, ''im having a issue with feeling like im being judged by others''
That way its not something she would take personally but a problem for her to guide you through?
Good luck
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