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Originally Posted by Sannah
Peaches, I really like how you are thinking about all of this. You are verbalizing it really well and understand what is going on with you.
I think that it is best to jump in with a person about any issue. Avoiding the issue because you want someone to progress past it doesn't work. You have to jump into with them so that it can be explored. Exploring it is the only way to move past it.
Do you think that you need to ask her if she is uncomfortable with the topic and if she is avoiding it?
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Sannah,
I have a strong feeling she is avoiding it. But i don't know why. I've already let her know that i've noticed she's avoided replying to what i've said about our relationship, but her response was that she doesn't have time to reply to everything i say in my emails, so she just replied to part of it because she was busy.
But a couple of days later, when i sent another email, expressing my same concerns/fears about the relationship, she avoided responding to the relational aspect of it again. In the first email, she directed me straight away to my coping skills. In the second email, she responded again with a coping skills reminder, and then an misapplication/misunderstanding of what i'd said.
Something is wrong. It could be as minor as that she is very busy and just doesn't want to/can't take the time to reply as she should. Or as serious as that she's decided I'm too attached and is trying to downplay my attachment and our relationship by ignoring my feelings about it and hoping I'll detach some as well.