Peaches, I wonder if your T is responding to emails the way mine does now. She told me she was only going to email me once each week, and it would be brief. She usually responds to something positive that I wrote, or says something positive. She doesn't usually reply to my feelings about her or our relationship. She says she can't do therapy via email.

I think that your T is trying to reinforce your coping skills, and is doing it deliberately but I think she should be more direct and tell you this is what she's doing. She feels it's in your best interests not to respond to every concern you have about your relationship. It's also true that she probably doesn't have time to do that, and that it's always better to discuss your relationship face to face.

I don't think she has "decided that you're too attached" and is now punishing you, as it seems to me that's what you think. She's doing it out of concern for you, as a way of weaning you away from the attachment to her. I wouldn't call it "ignoring your feelings" about it but rather she is focusing on how you can cope when she's not there. She's always available and willing to discuss your feelings about her when you're in session, isn't she? I think she wants to be there for you but help you to become independent by focusing on the positive. She's not trying to hurt you!

But....I know how hurt I was when my T didn't comment in the email about my feelings for her. I really felt she didn't care about me. We had to talk about it and compromise about how I could still email her and get a response that satisfied me. I think you need to have an honest discussion about what your T is trying to do with the emails to you. I don't believe she is "just busy" but that she's doing what she thinks is best for you. I know how hard this is for you, but you and your T have an excellent relationship and I know you can work this out.