I've been seeing someone for all of two weeks. He's a person who moved into my apartment building and someone I know and respect introduced us. I let my guard down enough to date because I trust my friend.

The upshot of it is that he has become demanding and stubborn. I felt like I was being used. So, I have called a halt to the relationship. I don't want to make an enemy but I don't want entangled in this. The fact that I go to the same church doesn't help.

I didn't realize how terrified I am of a disagreement with a man. I sat here in the dark last night dreading his knock on my door. I'm a grown woman and I can defend any of my friends fiercely and with passion but I am afraid to defend myself. I am so strong in so many ways, but I am still afraid of taking up for myself. When is this ever going to go away?

Jan