Thank you for sharing that Perna. You must be very strong to have overcome that. It's illuminating as usual to read how you understand it.

Processing... hmm maybe it goes back to the whole feelings/thoughts thing. Ultimately to borrow Perna's school example, nobody is going to award us an A for understanding it right.Do you mean that if we understand but don't perform correctly according to our new-found knowledge? I think there's even some frustration when our T's say, "yes, very good, a breakthrough!" Because we know it when we see it, don't we. You mean a breakthrough in understanding? Or a breakthrough in changing our patterns of behavior based on our understanding?

I think part of it is just being able to be real and present Now that's the challenge - what is real? And present? in that room with all the feelings, for T, for people in our lives, for the past. Hope that process is going good for you Suratji!