take an hour before the appt if you can, and do every anxiety trick you know. Hot bath, lavender oils, breathing exercises, ativan (if you use it)...everything.

It's ok to have a bullet list, every professional uses them for meetings, why not the caring mom? If you have a really difficult time expressing yourself, give the list to your husband and have him look at you to give him a "nod" after the points he makes (this way T won't think he controls everything). Make sure you wait for your son to respond before you do...that's a big one.