BUMMER!

But look Jan -- I think you're being a little hard on yourself. Two weeks is not the same as letting it drag on for two months or two years, AND you did manage to call a halt to the relationship, right? That to me seems like you managed to effectively stick up for yourself, even if you were really scared and maybe you didn't express yourself as assertively as you wanted to.

I think it's hard for most people to do that, honestly. I can think of only a few women who are easily able to set personal boundaries and stick with them.

A good network of friends has always been my biggest help in situations like this. And practice.

Please don't beat yourself up over letting your guard down. No risk, no glory. It sounds to me as though you had good reason to give this guy a chance (same church, recommendation from a friend). It's not like you're picking up random men willy-nilly. You sound SO on the right track to me. But yeah, it's still scary and difficult... but I have faith in you.