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Originally Posted by Suratji
But, where is the point in which spewing and venting and talking about the past become more detrimental than helpful? Is there not a danger that those grooves in the brain which hold the pain will solidify and be made deeper and therefore the odds of moving past the painful experiences become slimmer and slimmer?
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This has not been my experience at all. I've been through a lot of painful stuff from the past with T, and the difference is, this time there is a different outcome. Someone is seeing me and hearing me. Someone believes me. Someone isn't shaming me. Someone loves me. Someone isn't blaming me. Someone is seeing all of me and accepting every single bit of it.
For me, it's been very very powerful. It feels like sometimes one session can undo years of previous programming. And other things take years of sessions...
Watching T be gentle with me has taught me to be gentle with myself. I didn't know I deserved gentleness, truly. I never ever would have considered being anything but harsh and punishing with myself, because that's what I learned as a child.
I think therapy can be an amazing gift we give ourselves...a chance to say to someone else "here I am, here are my experiences, here is my shame" and to find out that we can still be loved, that we are actually okay.
