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Originally Posted by Jenn1fer82
After not seeing a therapist for almost a year now I've decided to find a new therapist. I can't afford an actual licensed therapist but only interns that are being supervised during graduate school. I've seen these interns before in the past and many of them have turned out great. I am having a hard time opening up to the one I'm seeing now. I can tell she's nervous and she uses words that makes me feel I'm being judged. Already I feel like she's reading me like a text book. I know I need to talk to her but its hard. I've seen her twice and she uses words like dysfunction, disorder, disoriented to refer to the way I feel about things. I wish should could have use other words that has a softer tone to them bc it just made me feel bad about myself.
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where i work we use "the feedback loop" to help clients commuincate whats going on for them. it is as follows...
1. When i see/hear you do/say.....
--> this is just a description of the bothersome phrase or behavior
2. What i make up about that/what that brings up for me is.....
--> this is the meaning you make of those words or that behavior
3. And about that i feel....
--> this is what feelings come up as a result of the meaning that you assigned
4. In the future, i would prefer if you....
--> this is your vulnerable request. a concrete step that the person can take to avoid this conflict with you in the future
my clients always think it seems silly and feels unnatural at first, but they come around VERY quickly after using it. its just a really great way to express whats going on for you and ask for what you need.