im not sure where one could be offended in there...what youre essentially saying is, i am observing some action of yours and the meaning that im assigning to it is leading to these particular feelings. i would really appreciate if you would do something else in future.

now, step two is THE most important part IMHO. that is where the conversation is. if you say something and i "make up" that your intent is to belittle me, then of course im going to feel hurt, angry, judged, unsafe and so on....however, by just putting it out there, ive given you the opportunity to (1) understand WHY im feeling all those feelings, (2) set me straight if that was not your intent and (3) understand how your communication with me may need to be different