LMo,

I'm an INFP :-) She's an INTJ. I don't know or remember what my percentages are on each letter -- that is, I don't know how close I am to a T rather than an F. I feel like her T was really close to an F, and that my F was really close to a T.

Thank you so much for reading what I wrote carefully. I know it was really long. I like writing, and I also wanted to make sure I got it all out. I wanted to give a full picture as accurately as possible.

And thanks so much for your compassion :-)

Thank you for the advice about not trying to analyze her right now. You may be right. And I feel like it probably does violate the space I'm trying to create in this breakup. Perhaps she'll be open about it later. And I feel like it's so true about advice that people have to be open to it (which I think she feels she is most of the time, even if maybe she's not totally) and reach out for it, and that it takes little bits over a long time to go a long way. Right now I just hope that this isn't the last that I hear from her. I don't want to be jealous or anything about her and everything, but I do feel like I want to have her in my life regardless of whether we get back together. We'll see, I guess.

I guess I feel like, I wish it was enough that I *want* to understand and I have always wanted that, and that I'm willing to work on things in order to achieve that. It feels like she wants or wanted things so immediately and without a lot of explicit conversation aside from talking about how upset and frustrated she gets sometimes.

I've spent the last 3-4 weeks working on myself. I don't want to stop, but I don't necessarily want to continue at the breakneck speed I've been going at. I want to have peace and calm and room to breathe. I'll focus on reinforcing the things I have discovered and changed, of course.