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beadlady29-old · Mar 25, 2011, 02:51 AM

((((((((((((((((constantdreamer)))))))))))))))))))
hi. just a couple of thoughts to share. hope this helps yuo put stuff into perspective a bit.
in your last post on this thread, you talked about NOT feeling bad far things that happen mabe not so good when it is in your control, but feeling bad about it when they are not in your control instead.
and that mite be true far you., but....
it does not sound like you need to be feeling guilty about ANYTHING rite now.
in your first post on this thread, you talk about takeing some very difficult steps to provide for the welfare of yourself adn yuor children. and it soundslike you was successfull pretty well with carryign uot yuor decisoin.
then yuo meet someone that helped you to feel safe adn seemed responsibel enuf to care about takeing care of bills & stuff adn you trusted him.
none of that sounds like you are doing anything wrong, whether consiously ae unconsiuosly. you mite, however, be being pretty hard on yuorself tho, mabe way arder on yourself then you need to be.
and beleive yuo me, beads totally gets THAT part. because we is, according to old T, way harder on beads then anyone else is these days (acceopt one person that we not thinkign about rite now). so anyways, beads just wnated ta lewt yuo no that dotn thunkeds any of this your fault. it aint. cant control what choices other ppls. makes, etc....... all we can do is to have good, but reasonebel self-control adn make the soundest decisoins we no how to. so pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeqaaaaaaaaaaaaaassssse, try adn give yourself a break. mavbe you adn your kids could go far a walk in the park together, pack a picnic lunch are anythign else you mite enjoy and just let go and have some fun. mabe it will help you o relax and you can start feel gooder.
you definitely are not walkign alone, their is lots of ppls. rite hear at pc that care includeign beads and try help any way can.
hang in their, and please keep posting
all of us beadies