<font color="#880000">Hello,

Hope everyone is well. I'm a little confused and concerned.

I am married and my husband is bi-polar. He is currently taking a Anti-Depressant and Mood Stablizer. He is doing well. I walked into this marriage knowing he has bi-polar and that it would always be a factor. That is why he is under my insurance plan.

Unfortunatly now that he is stable, I feel as though I have my own issues to deal with. I don't know if they are severe or if we (my husband and I) are over exaggerating them.

I know that I can be a bit controlling over him. Not in a way that restricts him though. I do not control him with his friends nor family. I have never restricted him in going out, he is free to go out and do what he wants. But more with his emotions and when I feel he has made a bad choice in life. For example, his schooling, I want him to go to school, but at the moment our finances are tight and we won't be able to afford it until next semester, which is really not that far away, but he gets so upset and says that I'm controlling him that I don't want him to go to school. Am I just being the barrer of bad news and he doesn't like it?

I also feel like I can be a little verbally abusive at times with him. When I get frustrated with him, I tell him he stupid, which he is not and I know that. I will call him other words, never a cus word. I feel like I am consistantly lecturing him on bad choices that he makes. That frustrates me.

We both come from a poor parental back ground, not going into too much detail here. My husband and I have a great communication. Outside of this our relationship is good.

The biggest underlining question, Do I have a problem, or is this normal? Should I be seeking help, or should I try to work on it myself? Sometimes I wonder if I think too much about things. Heh I also have a spending problem, not a huge one, but I do have one. Plus I get chronic Migraines.</font>