Hi Suratji,

I totally understand where you're coming from. Very often, i hate feeling so attached and needy toward my t!! I realize that it makes me vulnerable and easy to feel hurt by things my t says or does. I also get angry at times if my t doesn't respond sensitively toward me.

I think that on the other side of the couch, it can be easy for them to forget what it feels like as a client to open up and spill your guts -- your most tender and scary and difficult feelings. And also easy for them to forget that it's hard and scary to rely on, or attach to, somebody else, when other people in the past that you've trusted have used you, abandoned you, or let you down. T's need to realize that therapy may be their "job," but they are with us in a journey to the deepest, darkest parts of our soul. They had better not encourage our attachment unless they are prepared to stick with us in that journey and treat us sensitively and honestly, not just with memorized textbook statements or platitudes. It may just be their job, but it's our life.

(rant over)