<font color="purple">I would like to know if anyone can relate to this or has any input....

I do not associate sex with love or really any emotional connection. This upsets my husband deeply. I have tried to explain to him that it is not against him, that it is me. It is how I have always viewed sex. I have told him that I view love differently. I show love by doing kind, thoughtful, and spontaneous things for him. Or by poems or letters. This is also how I in-turn feel love, when he does the same for me: even if it is doing the dishes for me, to me it is a sign of affection where as sex is not. Sex is just an activity, something fun to do, but to him sex is very much a love connection. I feel I have come a long way regarding this because for a long time sex made me feel dirty and sick. I use to be one of those people that could take it or leave it. Then I went thru a personal change, and am now able to enjoy it without those feelings, well as long as I keep my eyes shut, and I have become a very sexual person, just without the association of that is love. I have talked with therapists about it before but I really don’t get much feedback, other than that it is most likely caused from the sexual assault I have experienced in the past.

Can anyone else relate to this or am I the only one?

Melinda
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