It depends on what you're referring to with the word judgmental, when it comes from a "greater than thou" type of attitude and is intended to demean or belittle that's a world away from the internal judgments we all make about others on a daily basis. I still believe in the whole...if you can't say something nice...mindframe. Obviously, with people we are close too, we sometimes need to share personal opinions that are not so nice, but the spirit the comments come from dictate how it is perceived.