I think that when a person keeps going over and over something with their T that they aren't releasing the emotions but are only talking about it intellectually. The emotions really need to be released.

I also think that we have to uncover the messages that we learned from our past in order to be released from it. If you were abused and therefore, learned the lesson that you are worthless, you have to consciously realize that this is the message that you learned and you have to work through this and acquire a healthier message about yourself. Other messages that are derived from less than ideal upbringings are "I can't meet my needs, only the needs of others", "I need to be perfect", "I need to be hypervigilant", "I can't show my feelings", "I can't stand up for myself", "I am unlovable", "I need to keep everyone at a distance for safety", etc.

I also value working backwards by starting with today. What are you doing today that isn't working for you?