This is pathetic but I dont know where else to turn anonymously. Recently, my husband seems to have lost total interest in me (altogether). We've gone through periods of him not wanting me physically (but still wanting me emotionally - he had a porn habit which explains why he didnt want sex but wanted me emotionally) to him wanting me physically only and not being involved emotionally (he wanted sex all the time but ignored me otherwise - didnt seem to care about my emotional needs). Well now it's both. He seems to have lost interest in me completely. No sex, no touching, doesnt say "I love you" anymore, won't talk to me about anything but work (and that's limited), walks away or leaves the room when I'm talking....basically you get the point. I've confronted him and asked him if there is another woman OR if he is back using the porn and he denies both. Two weeks ago, he complained I wasnt flirtatious or romantic enough so I've been doing my best to try to "come on" to him but ironically he blows me off. I feel like a failure. I don't know how to attract him anymore. I'm NOT the BEST looking woman on Earth but I'm not too shabby so I don't know. He used to tell me "it's not about looks" and would tell me all about how wonderful his ex girlfriend Jessica was (she wasn't very goodlooking either) so I dont get it. :'( Can anyone offer advice on what I can do to put the "spark" back? I'm craving affection and been very depressed (for months now). I don't know where to turn..... we are in marriage counseling and it's not helping....the counselor doesnt see a problem with his past porn habit (his porn habit broke my heart and made me not trust him as well as severly negatively affected our sex life). Please help. :'( I will take any sort of advice.