Do you want to stop self harming for you or for her?

If it's for you great!

But if it's to please her, that's cause for worry. Although positive attention is better then negative attention, it's still seeking attention. (and I am in no way using the word "attention" as judgmental here, I have been around the block when I was desperate and hurting.). So I think that when you return to therapy you need to rather be focused on why it is you want to please her, versus her believing you or not.

I do have to give you 40 million thumbs up though, because the transition from negative to positive attention seeking is a huge step in and of itself. I see some people, who may never make that transition and it makes me sad. It took me awhile to make that transition and then to question why I sought it at all. And when you question that, then you start seeing what's deep down, and that brings healing .