That is pretty much where I have landed. Yes, he does have a porn thing, I know that for sure. But I like him, and as long as he keeps his porn email separate from his client email, we'll be all set. I even gave him some geeky tech advise about how to set up a secure email for clients. I think the thing that is hardest for me to get past, is that the porn chicks look similar to me. NO I don't mean I have a great bod or am pretty or anything...I mean that their style is kind of punk rock, with brightly dyed hair and black hoodies. But I got past that...thanks to all of you. Now if another thing comes up that makes me take a step back I might leave, let's hope all his bad stuff is on the table. *crosses fingers*

I think the big issue is that I have never let a T in this close, so every little thing matters. He's always late, he didn't stand up for me in crisis, he occasionally touches my back on the way out, he likes porn. In 6 years of T I have never had this many issues with a T...but I haven't gotten anywhere either.