I know I didn't post earlier, not being sure what to say, but I am glad you were able to process this and work it out with him. And that you are able to separate it out from the work he is doing with you as a T. Yes, sometimes people we like do have an unsavory sort of habit (or more than one!), and sometimes it's possible and even good to simply look past it to the good that they have to offer, if the good outweighs the rest! What's the point of being too judgmental.....though it is good to be carefully discerning in what is safe or not!