Hello, ChipmunkGal. Have you told the counselor everything you just told us? Does your husband open up to the counselor? Indifference is worse than hate. I question the competency of the counselor if he places no credence in your feelings. About the only thing I can think of is to make sure the counselor and your husband know how devastating your husband's behavior has been -- right down to him talking about an ex girlfriend.

Good luck.