I understand....and maybe your husband might understand more if sex were put in the "loving activity" category instead of the "recreational".....I'm a firm believer that we all possess our own individual "talents" regarding expressing our deepest love for someone. Just point out to him that while sex is certainly a loving activity (w/him of course)....that you feel your expression of deepest love from other gestures.....no problem there....just a difference between you two...Hang in there.grace