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Originally Posted by emptyboat
And yet I am tired of feeling manipulated. All these years watching him struggle I'm afraid I have babied him somewhat by giving in, often out of fear he would go into a rage. He told me when he got home he wasn't going to be "nice" to me and that can mean anything, depending on his mood, from cold shoulder to outright aggression.
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Welcome emptyboat. I'm sorry that your son has been diagnosed and you've had to watch him struggle with the illness. I agree with you that he is capable of dealing with these situations and threatening that he wasn't going to be "nice" is manipulative.
I don't have children, but I can imagine it would be difficult to set healthy boundaries, but it's necessary. Whether a child is BP or not they all require boundaries. Your son will be out of the home soon and will be expected to function in school, work, life in general and having a "mantrum" will not get him anywhere.
If you aren't already I would suggest family and individual counseling for both you and your son. He is very lucky to have you in his life. The book in my signature is for family members, friends of those diagnosed. It's excellent.