Hello all. I'm new to this forum. I have been dx'd with BPD, PTSD, severe depression, general and social anxiety disorders, obsessive compulsive personality traits..

What i seem to be struggling with a lot lately is that people call me manipulative, selfish, constantly point out that in a particular situation what/how i see it is not how it was meant, or accusing me of verbally attacking them (in a way, not swearing or anything like that, just blaming or taking my anger out on them if this makes sense?) .. i realize these are BPD traits. What i struggle with is the fact that I DONT SEE IT!!! This really, truly bothers me. I try to be a kind person and don't *try* to be selfish or hurtful. I also *try* to take responsibility for my own actions, but i've heard a lot lately that i often don't do that either.

How do i work so that 1) this stops happening, and 2) i actually recognize when it happens. ? What skills to use? And HOW is it that i don't see it?! That is so very puzzling.

Insight is appreciated, thank you.