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Old Mar 26, 2011, 04:59 AM
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Originally Posted by jazzy123456 View Post
I'm not completely happy but, I'm no longer depressed. I'm sure I can go in there and talk and share my mind but, for what?
I think going to talk and share with the goal of happiness is perfectly fine. You say you aren't depressed anymore, which is great, but something is lacking--something that you define as being "completely happy." Why not work towards that? If you need specific goals to get you there, you can make some. There is more to life than just being "not depressed." How about being joyful, happy, content, growing, developing, etc.? Once my T divided life into 6 different areas and told me we could work in any of those or several of them for me to reach my full potential, grow and develop, be the person I want to be, etc. The areas were things like family, friends, career, creativity, spirituality, health, etc. To start with, I've chosen to devote a lot of energy to developing and growing in the family and career areas. My T helps me with this.

You can also work by yourself on these things if you don't want to continue therapy or if you can't afford it right now. I find it so helpful to have my T's help with these things as he is really an expert on helping people grow in the directions they want and need. Sometimes I feel a little guilty for continuing to go therapy even though I'm not "sick." But our health is a continuum and I am somewhere just past stable/healthy now, and I want to keep moving toward the far, positive end of the spectrum.

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Originally Posted by jazzy
am i ever going to have goals?
Do you know what is stopping you from having goals? Maybe you could tell your T you'd like to make some goals for yourself, and he could help you explore what you'd like to focus on?
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Thanks for this!
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