(((((((((((sweetlove)))))))))))

I am an *expert* on therapy ruptures!

T and I have talked about this a lot...how painful and scary and awful and foundation-shaking they feel when they happen...and how empowering and reassuring and trust-building it feels once they are repaired. It's just awful getting from "here" to "there".

The first time I had a rupture with T, it was on a Friday, and I spent the weekend in tears. I was surprised at how awful it felt. I wrote a long e-mail, editing and re-editing and re-editing and it helped me sort out my thoughts and feelings a LOT. I never sent it...but by the time I saw him on Monday, I was able to take all of those thoughts and feelings and express them to him, and it was the beginning of the repair. It was awful, but I learned a lot about relationships and trust and was the first REALLY big step forward in my healing.

When I have ruptures with T, posting here helps a lot. Let us support you while you are figuring all of this out...

I hope you were able to get sleep last night.

Hugs and more hugs to you