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Originally Posted by Dr.Muffin
i dont know if this is okay to say here....but he kinda sounds like a douche.
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Oh he was douchetastic! (I think he was even wearing hair mousse). Thanks for having my back.
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Originally Posted by pachyderm
You know, it is hard from a distance to tell the significance of this. It could be many different things, depending on his manner and all kinds of cues you could pick up in person. He could be just being very direct and honest with you, saying "Yeah, it is kind of insulting to have my judgment called into question.  " Or, he could be getting defensive and blaming it on you. Or something else. Maybe you need to collect more "evidence" before you decide for sure.
An experienced T should be able to discuss this with you, and not load you with responsibility for how he feels. A problem I have is sometimes I get triggered and so panicked that I cannot think clearly. Then I can't collect the clues I need to figure out how much danger there really is here. Again, a good T, I would think, would know enough about how frightened people react to know how to work through this. But probably many T's don't have this much insight into frightened people to know how to do this without getting overly triggered themselves. |
Pachy you should post more! I like what you're saying here. It was exactly that, out of control feeling... I can not tell you how spot on. It was absolutely triggering because, just to share, I can't tell you how many times THAT kind of standoff has led to an actual physical confrontation between me and men.
What I liked here, was that the T
told me he was feeling his authority threatened/ intimidated by my question. I have seen other T's feel this, and it shows in their body language. I have a real fear of asking questions in therapy for that reason. I feel like it's only a matter of time before I trigger the T and they trigger me!!! This guy says it is b/c I am borderline and other people say it is because I am emotionally "intense." I just don't know where I fit including in therapy.
Oh well luckily insurance has unlimited visits. This choice can wait a while too.