Granite, you raise some excellent valid points! I don't think that I am always in this mode I think I go there most when I am at my most vulnerable. It probaly doesn't help that my job is working with preschoolers either! I probably pick stuff up from them too!! Oh dear! I hadn't thogught about that. I know that it is not a problem in my relationships. Maybe she would be open to it since I am on holidays and I do see her twice a week It's not like I only see her oncea month and would be wasting a session, She gave me another 2.5hr session one day last week so,,,,I don't know.