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thanks and a little off topic but for my 10 birthday (3 months b4 my Nana passes) i am a the park and i'm trying to break the piņata and i cant so my Nana comes up to me and says pretend that it is ur mother and i hit it and with 2 more hit i broke it i had no stress for the rest of the day...........what do u sugest i can do this time ??
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How are you feeling today?
Well, the trick is - and i'm still learning, so bear with me
- to get out the angry/aggressive/hurt feelings you have without harm to yourself or others, and then hopefully moving in the direction of healing. Some ideas that come to mind to get out the anger are:
draw your mom's face on a balloon, blow it up and then pop it. (to which my therapist added writing a note with your feelings on it, put it inside the balloon before blowing it up, and then burning it outside (safely) once it's popped)
physical activity. Serious cardio, running, brisk walk, heck, play tennis and pretend your mom is the ball, basketball.. whatever kinds of activity you prefer.
write an entire letter to your mom, uncensored, getting out however you're feeling, adding as much or as little as you'd like, then tear it to peices or burn it, again, outside.
call a friend to vent
get outside. Sunshine really does help.
Scream into a pillow, or hit the pillows either against the wall or just hit the pillows themselves.
My brain is foggy right now so that's all it got at the moment. But remember that, just as important as it is to get the anger out, it's then equally important to do self care things afterwards to soothe yourself. Feed yourself, shower, yoga, meditation, watch a funny movie, do something you enjoy, listen to music that makes you feel good, etc.