He gets in your face and yells? Hon, you've got a tiger by the tail. Doesn't sound like a loving supportive environment to me. Is it too late for an annulment? You do not need this crap.You do not deserve this crap. Dude has major issues, Take care of yourself, this kind of stuff only gets worse with time. You will never do things "right" enough for him. Check your phone book for battered women's services and give them a call. They probably have councelors available who could help you make the hard decisions sitting on your plate.
Sorry your dreams have come crashing down. But, it doesn't have to wreck the rest of your life. Take care of yourself, please.