I know sometimes my depression speaks instead of me. This can get me into a lot of hot to warm water. Anxiety does the same. Heart to heart talks are better left when you are more stable. You may be feeling and saying something that is not accurate. Time and stability will help you understand the feelings more and keep you out of hot water with the boyfriend. Sometimes those feelings go away, change, and it leaves the other party confused and then they withdraw. Darn our depression anyway!!!