Hey...the longer I live, the more tolerant I am.....
What I've discovered is that we all have our own personal hang ups (usually resulting from our own, personal past experiences)....my husband is a major hypochondriac.....&, of course, I might have a pitiful few faults myself.....but we work at understanding the origins of it....we talk about it.....we ask the counselor about it...and it makes us both more aware of what we're doing. Don't get me wrong....no one suddenly becomes a perfectly balanced person...but if you truly love one another, you can find some mutual understanding and end up even closer despite your "quirks"......at least it's worth a try....good luck, grace